Thursday, September 8, 2011

The Patient Spouse.

 No I am not married. But yes, I have one...well my own version of one, I guess. It was a realization the other day as I was fishing. Standing on a rock I had waded out to, I looked over my shoulder and there was Banjo, on the bank waiting. So this is how many other fishermen feel. A spouse or a partner -- they come along just to be near you. Perhaps bringing a book, they sit and watch -- encouraging when the trout aren’t biting, and cheering when they are.

And mine sits and waits patiently too. It's a pleasant passing of time, for both of us. Although when there hasn’t been the splash of a take for awhile, he gets bored -- that's too much time -- and I get frustrated. He gives me a look, perhaps we should move down the bank now love, you aren’t doing very well here…

….but, he would never say any such thing.

He just gives me a wise eye, and keeps it on me. Silent, knowing he is right. He tucks himself into a patch of wildflowers, stretches out, and sunbathes -- baking his bones as my grandmother would say -- letting me stubbornly ignore his better judgment. Someday she'll learn. Then, there is a splash around my dry and the line is taken down deep. Waking, he starts wading out to meet me on my rock, and to sniff the trout. He loves sniffing trout (especially browns for some reason). Finally, something interesting. And then the line goes slack in what feels like eternity compressed, and then lost, in a moment.

He stops and turns back to shore...disappointed.

Me too, boy.....me too...

Yet, he always gets excited when he sees my rod tube in my pack, and my vest and hat laid out. And he always wants to go -- always wants to come with -- even though he doesn't like water. But, he loves me. And that’s enough for him.

37 comments:

  1. The picture is priceless and epitomizes the words in your story.

    Mama ;-) woof woof

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  2. A great fishing companion by any measure.

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  3. The loves in our lives come in all shapes, in all sizes. It's all about the understanding. You and Banjo are lucky to have one another.

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  4. Erin
    Your version of a spouse is truly what the term was meant to represent...love, loyalty and understanding. Love the pic.

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  5. Sweet. The photo definitely captures it.

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  6. Dogs are, quite simply, the best. As well you know, they have the best qualities we seek in a human companion, without any of the less desirable traits. He's a dandy for sure. The least you could do is perform more reliably for him ;)

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  7. sgb - He is priceless. :) Thank you for telling me I needed a dog..."good therapy."

    Cofisher - One of the best...and I'm lucky to have two...

    Mike - Indeed we are, and there's a good understanding between the two of us...one of the greatest relationships I've ever been a part of. Human, or animal. Like you said...all shapes and sizes...

    John - "love, loyalty and understanding" and like Mike said, it doesn't matter what shape, size (or species) that comes in. Thanks on the pic!

    Jay - The photo and its subject distracted me from fishing for quite some time...and I didn't mind a bit.

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  8. Ankur - Thanks...I share my GF snacks with him too. ;)

    Kirk - That they are. And I do feel a bit guilty about my performance for him...I get the better end of the deal. He has to put up with my 'less desirable traits!"

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  9. If only it was the case in all walks of life. ...to be that true and content.

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  10. Our dogs have much in common Erin and doesn't mine (Buddy) sulk if he can't come fish with me. The best fishing companion by far - and I've only hooked him once!

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  11. Loyalty,love,truth.... and all you need to do in return for it is a gentle pat, and a kind word.

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  12. Took the words right out of my mouth, Erin, but made them much sweeter. I feel lonely without Mr. Bud on the water. Always a source of entertainment and company. This past week I was approaching a sexy looking lie, in stealth mode along the north bank of the lower Gunnison. Mr. Bud was curious what I was sneaking up on, and came charging like lightning down the bank toward me. Right as he approached that gurgling run, he missed his footing and slipped off the 3 foot high bank with a splash so big it reminded me of doing cannonballs in the river growing up. I couldn't help but double over in laughter, and moved on to the next run. These are priceless and immortal memories on the river that only he could provide.

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  13. One of my dogs thinks fly fishing is a really elaborate game of fetch.

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  14. Banjo seems like a hell of pooch. What kind of dog is he?

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  15. BCnerd - get a dog. :)

    Dave - It is an honor to have such companionship, isn't it?...and I've only snagged Banjo once too. Although thankfully his coat is so think he didn't get hooked.

    Brk Trt - They are simply amazing creatures...

    Justin - It's treasured time, for sure. And I've had similar experiences where Banjo will spook fish, or rush in for a drink.....and I would take those times over catching more fish any day. Cheers!

    OneBugIsFake - haha! I suppose in a way, it is!

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  16. Ivan - He's grand indeed! I was told when I adopted him that he's an Australian Shepherd mix of some kind...the mutts are the best. :)

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  17. Nice story.The comments are great as well. A combination of a sweet topic and good writing, I think. Thank you.

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  18. Herringbon - Thanks! And the comments are all treasured...testaments to the wonder of animals.

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  19. A dog loves you no matter what. My dogs almost jump out of their skin when I put fishing boots on and pick up my rod. Beautiful dog.

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  20. so sweet :) i agree that the picture is perfect!

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  21. Unfortunately Buddy swallowed my bait and had to have a vet remove the hook from his throat. It was a simple process but he's a real drama queen when he's hurting - bless him.

    By a huge coincidence, the previous trip to the river saw the local farmer's dog pinch my baited hook and I had to remove it from his tongue with forceps. He was very good about it and even gave me a cuddle when it was out.

    Fishing is full of coincidence but I could do without any more like this.

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  22. @e.m.b. - aussies and aussie mixes are great dogs. my friend bucko has an aussie mix. after i am done with school, i am looking into getting a dog. I am leaning towards an aussie mix or a border collie mix.

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  23. Oh my, Dave! Poor Buddy! I think I would be a drama queen if I swallowed a bait & hook too! Glad that no lasting damage was done....and hope for no more "coincidences" of the sort!

    Ivan - that they are...and I grew up with a Border Collie...love both breeds. although, the aussie mix is nice because the non-stop herding instinct is much lessened. ;)

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  24. Phillip - They love us no matter what...and that is the wonder of it, eh? And the beauty. I am glad you have them as fishing friends too!

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  25. My Scooter loves to go as much as I love taking him but for the first half hour he has absolutely no control. Full speed flat run gravel bar to mid streem and back. You just have to stay out of his way until he gets it out of his system. I think we'll run down to the creek tonight.

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  26. Kevin - I hope you have a most lovely time tonight down by the creek...with your exuberant friend. :)

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  27. EMB
    Whoever the guy is who finds you, is one lucky soul. My wife use to fish with me back before we had kids, and after kids she pretty much quit. I hope she will take it up again once she retires in a couple of years. You and RD are two special womem that love to fly fish.

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  28. I think it's true that dogs ultimately choose us, and by the looks of it, Banjo is exactly where he wants to be. There is nothing better than having a dog as a friend and companion. They are the best :-)

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  29. Bill - "The guy" has found me...and I'm lucky too. I hope your wife joins you again out on the water soon.

    Sanders - They are! I couldn't ask for a better companion...I'm glad he chose me! :)

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  30. Everyone should have a fishing companion with four legs.............. i hope to one day :)

    Top stuff Erin

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  31. Tom - Indeed everyone should...and I hope you someday experience the pleasure of it!

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  32. There was a fisherman who had a dog and banjo was his name-o... Sorry I just flew back from SD. Still haven't slept right in 4 days. =)

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  33. B-A-N-J-O-....b-a-n-j-o....thanks for getting that song stuck in my head, Kevin! ;)

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  34. didn't know that inter-species marriages where legal in Colorado... ;D

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  35. Marc, anything is legal in the canyon. ;)

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